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[seeringlight]

Valentine's Day is coming up in a few weeks, so I feel like it's worth asking some romance related questions. Mostly, I ask now because I'm sure I'll be busy later. I'm mostly curious.

Do you believe in love at first sight or true love? I'm not going to ridicule your answer, that would hardly be professional. Me? I can't believe such sentiments, as nice as they sound. [She'd love to believe that, but Rose was much too cynical for such rubbish. There's a lot of reasons as to why, but she isn't going to talk about those. Ever.]

If you're with someone and expecting them to do something for the occasion, what would you be expecting? I suppose I'm asking what your ideal would be. Just chocolate and flowers or the whole ten yards?

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[marshall_lee]

Not a problem. I think it's interesting as well.

Don't worry. It's been a while since it happened. I just try not to think about it anymore.

Love is blind, deaf and dumb. People do a lot of stupid things when they're supposedly in love and sometimes reason can go out the door when your hormones are raging.

I hope this doesn't come off wrong but I'm glad you've never had to go through anything like that. It always sucks to go through even if it's for the better in the long run.

[seeringlight]

It's better not to dwell on things like that, yes?

It doesn't come off wrong. I would hate to lose my senses for something like love, but I can also see why people would do it.

Well, kind of. Personal experiences don't really give me a personal understanding, but it's painted so nicely that I can only guess who nice it may be. I am fond of my senses though, so perhaps losing logical reasoning for it is something I'd rather hate. You can't really guess until it happens. I find this to be unfortunate.

[marshall_lee]

I agree.

The funny thing is that when it happens most people don't even realize they're being dumb. They convince themselves that it's the right thing to do or that every couple makes sacrifices for each other..blah blah blah. It's only until after it's over do you realize how foolish you've been.

You can learn a lot by observing other people but it pales in comparison to first hand experience. I'm definitely not going to encourage you to go out there and get your heart broken though.

[seeringlight]

I understand. I hate to think that it may happen to me one day. But I suppose that I don't necessarily have to worry about it until someone happens to charm me enough for me to even agree to a relationship.

I play particularly hard in the hard to get department. I've got very high standards and not many who can reach it.

[marshall_lee]

If anything you can think of it as something that helps contribute to your growth as a person. You learn a lot about yourself when you're with someone else as weird as that sounds.

There's nothing wrong with having high standards at all. Knowing what you're looking for in a partner is a good thing.
Personally I'm always willing to give someone a shot even if I doubt we're compatible. You never know just who might surprise you!

[seeringlight]

That is a rather strange concept. I suppose it makes sense that sometimes we are blindsighted by our own thoughts that we sometimes miss even the most obvious detail about ourselves.

I guess I would consider that more if I wasn't so acutely aware of some more shallow ways of thinking.

[marshall_lee]

It's strange but true. Often you don't come to these self realizations until after you get out of a bad relationship. Then you can look back and learn.

Well, everyone is a little bit shallow in some way I think.

[seeringlight]

I guess we really are a society who really learns from mistakes. What a painful way to learn.

True, but I have only ever been pursued for my appearance. It's a little boring after awhile.

[marshall_lee]

Some people refuse to learn from words alone.

Well, you can't fault people for that though. Appearance is what people notice first. For some people that's enough..I like to call those people "jerks".

[seeringlight]

Actions tend to speak louder than words. We are a rather ignorant society even though we are so attached to words for spell use.

Well, asking for my hand because my beauty is as glorious as the moon is honestly a bit too forward for my tastes. Also, you'd think they'd have more original comparisons to use if they wish to woo a lady.
Jerk is a rather good word to describe them though.

[marshall_lee]

I agree with you there.

...wow, I'm a romantic and even I'd never be that cheesy. At least it wasn't some of the awful pick up lines I've heard at clubs. My personal favorite was overhearing some guy compliment a girl on her outfit, she smiled and thanked him and he replied with "It'd look great on my bedroom floor."
She threw a drink in his face. It was hilarious and well deserved I think.

[seeringlight]

I'm quite proud of that young lady. Such barbaric lines such as that won't score you points usually. To think that some people think those are acceptable words to speak is just appalling at times. I like my men with a little more class.
I wish I could have seen it. It sounded quite the scene.

[marshall_lee]

I would really hope that a line like that wouldn't score any points. If it actually ever worked I think my faith in humanity would drop a little.

I'll be the first to admit that I'm no angel myself, but I at least am respectful when I'm first meeting someone.

I thought it was pretty awesome myself. I anonymously sent her over another drink for it.

[seeringlight]

I'm sure it has worked before on the more unsuspecting. Those who are easily wood by words or don't know better. People usually learn though.

That's a respectable trait to have, and I'm quite glad of it.

Bravo.

[marshall_lee]

Ugh. I'd hardly call those words to woo by. I don't think the kind of girl who would actually go for something like that is one I'd want to hang out with.

It's not like it's hard to be polite. It's kind of sad that common sense isn't so common these days.

It's no big deal.I figured she deserved something nice that evening at least.

[seeringlight]

Why be polite when you can come off as a total pig? Apparently that is the mindset of many. I suppose it's unfortunate that parents don't seem to teach many of their kids proper manners nowadays.

[marshall_lee]

Too true. I know some of the things I've overhead I'd have gotten my mouth smacked by my Mum if she'd have heard me saying it.

Culture and technology has changed dating a lot too. People don't really even date properly anymore. It's just become a hook up culture.

[seeringlight]

My mother would be appalled, if she were not also used to it. Not that she hasn't made sure they would regret treating her as so.

Many apparently find courtship asinine. Sigh. A reminder that chivalry is dying, if not at the brink of extinction.

[marshall_lee]

I suppose it's much worse for ladies than dudes.

I've always found courtship to be the fun part of starting a new relationship.

[seeringlight]

I find it rather interesting. It's a rather novel idea at the very least. But I'm probably looking at this in a more scientific standpoint as I find observing it is just so rather fascinating.

[marshall_lee]

Not me. I'd much rather work at winning someone over.
Don't you think it would be fun to be swept off your feet though?

[seeringlight]

I suppose it would be. I have yet to have it happen, but I will inform you when it has happened and my thoughts on it.